Reasons behind dating
No matter the reason, it can be scary trying to get back into dating if your last first date happened several years ago. But, more importantly, you might be entering a dating landscape that looks totally different from the one you left behind.
The last decade has seen an explosion in the number of online dating sites around the world, and the number of people using them.
A bit over a decade ago, online dating was viewed by many as the last resort for those who hadn’t found a relationship the “normal” way.
These days, it is often the first option for someone looking for romance, not the last.
Add those complications to the fact that online dating is, for many people, a thoroughly dispiriting experience, and it’s no wonder that older adults are more likely to rate it as a negative experience than any other demographic. If people are finding love through online dating sites, why does it fail so many others?
To answer this, let’s take a look at some of the main reasons online dating doesn’t work. Researchers in the UK recently calculated the odds of finding a compatible partner if they used the average person’s requirements (in terms of desired age, physical requirements, location, and so on).
They found that just over 84,440 people in the UK fit the average person’s requirements, from an adult population of 47 million. In other words, applying the average person’s filters when it comes to finding a compatible partner gives you less than a 1 in 500 chance of being successful.
It probably started with all those procedurals I watched as a kid where they would have to go undercover as a married couple and once I discovered romance novels, the love just kept Growing. What makes someone lie to everyone they know about their relationship? Maybe your heroine just can’t stand one more relative asking her when SHE’LL be the one walking down the aisle, or maybe the hero needs to convince a lawyer he’s married to gain an inheritance—either way, they’re suddenly asking that old friend to become something more.
And if you don’t like what you see, you can always click on to the next profile – there is always another candidate just around the corner!
Of course, online dating wouldn’t be so popular if it didn’t work for so many people.
And with such an alluring promise, it’s understandable why online dating took off so quickly.
Suddenly there was a different way to find a partner, one that promised practically infinite possibilities, where an algorithm could find you the “right” person without you needing to do the hard work of ever actually talking to them in person.
) the driving force of the conflict: no one is sure if the other person’s words and actions are real or just an act for their audience.